Listening is an art. It is not merely heard. It requires the listener to know the initiative in talks as well as how to combine several skills and specific techniques. Here are some tips and methods you can apply to become a really good listener, a person that others want to talk.
- Listen actively: Remember that you are listening. Direct your attention to the speaker and make them see that this seems only one thing that you care about: what they are saying.
- Focus: Expressing respect for the speaker is necessary. Consider their opinions very carefully. Do not underestimate or ignore what show you're listening, face and not show disrespect. Of course you do not necessarily agree with everything they say, but wait until they all presented their views.
- Ask a question: You will have questions about what was heard. And to meet the appropriate time, give these questions to verify information and also a way to express your interest. Do not steer the topics according to their own story. When suddenly the speaker refers to problems that make you special attention, you will eventually be attracted to, and will cut the speaker to handle any great sports theme. The result is often done to change the subject to say your story. Those who always listens to the other control of the situation. It is best to remember that question and after the speaker has said all the things they want, you ask questions. While listening, you should not think about his turn to say what you will. Because if so then you will not focus on what the other person is saying.
- To respond to the speaker: Sometimes when you want to encourage the speaker to continue, please show that you're still very focused on their story just by saying: "What did you mean ..." or "To see if I understand correctly that you do not ..." And repeat what you think you've heard. This is an orientation to the topic say that even they themselves are not going to talk to.
- Use body language: Be open to the speaker. Face to face and look at them. Do not leave anything to create distance between you and the speaker. If possible, please step away from the table and sat next to them. Nor should arms folded, facing away from the speaker, facing away, looking at things around the room, or glancing at a computer screen or reading. Let's really focus on the speaker.
- Interpretation of content you want to present: Usually when you do not understand a problem, you will only focus on talk, talk, talk, instead of interpreting. Explain exactly can make both the speaker and the listener understand the problem. It's not easy to guess the meaning behind the words, this interpretation is necessary. This technique can help people to expand the conversation, you can explore what you really want to project.
- Silent: Silence makes people feel uncomfortable. It creates an atmosphere laden with thought, and sometimes pain. A listener must really comfortable in that environment. Sometimes, waiting a few minutes in silence will help the speaker can exploit all the emotions deeply hidden inside. Mastering is the silence, it means you have succeeded.
Do the requirements above, can say that you're a really good listener. But life does not always provide all-pink. Sometimes, we ourselves fail to hear, something seemingly simple but extremely complex. So, university shield would cause most of us have had difficulties in the ability to collect opinions, comments of others?
- The attitude of listening is not good: more Deaf people who are deaf do not want to hear. We often mistaken as we know it should not want to hear or listen to a part, but must be repeated until it does not remember me. Worse is that we only hear what's wrong partners, in response to bad.
- No preparation: To say something that is well prepared all the plans. so that the communication has never been prepared to listen to both. Failing to prepare is preparing to fail. That is the cause we hear less effective.
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